Last year in May I participated in a 30 day challenge that involved: running/walking 1 mile daily, realacing an unhealthy breakfast with a healthy one (Mine wasn’t unhealthy to start) and journal on what moves/motivates you. I am doing a variation on that theme starting tomorrow…
April 1 – April 30 I will run a mile everyday. I am also committing to three random acts of kindness each day if the month.
I am also giving myself a little push and from April 1 until my husband moves up on April 12. I am giving up junk food, fried food (Which basically IS junk food!), added sugar, and…. drumroll…. breads!
Alright! Its out there in the interweb… no turning back!
I only say finally because it’s almost always springy down in Roanoke. Quite a different winter experience than Vermont.
This morning Theron and I trotted down to the Colchester Bike Path; and I didn’t have to wear gloves!!! And I only had a vest on! It was so wonderful… enough to make the soul sing and happiness seep deep into my bones.
We wandered over the bridge that connects my mother’s neighborhood to the Bike Path.. This creek can’t quite compete with the Roanoke River…
But the lake at the end of this shot of the path totally wins!! Okay… You have squint to see it, but I promise there’s a nice big lake down there!
It was one of those perfect crisp mornings where we could smell all sorts of delightful things… Like the last vestiges of the wood smoke from the previous night fire to stave off the cold… The hay for the horses housed at the horse farm across the road from Mothers… The muddy patches where the snow has melted…
Smores and I have been enjoying the afternoon on the sun porch with the windows all open… She’s been keeping an eye on this cutie at the horse barn, and it’s been so lovely that I haven’t been able to buckle down and work from home yet. Theron’s been an outdoor dog all day. All that’s missing is my gorgeous husband! April 11, hurry hurry hurry!
Ya’ll can probably tell by this point I have this thing about the concept of taking a deep breath, and just breathing in and out. Again, and again. Slowly. Calming the pace of life.
When I saw this, I just went ahhhhhh…. so me!!! And wanted to share it!
I have no idea why the simple concept of breathing in deeply and breathing out completely makes my heart calm and happy… but I’m so glad something simple like that makes me feel more whole.
I’ve been taking advantage of this really great program offered by the Roanoke Valley Library system. They now have free memberships (for library patrons) to Universal Class. Universal Class gives you the opportunity to learn and explore on different topics. I signed up for five classes – maxed it out – of course!
I am working through the Wellness Coaching one right now, and was working on the lesson regarding Mental Wellness, and came across information about affirmations.
The general gist of them (in the context of information from this class) is that they are statements written, said internally and/or externally, in the present tense to help work through situations.
I am still struggling with placing adequate importance on working out. It’s something that disappoints me and frustrates me daily. In order to overcome that hurdle I could use affirmations. Some affirmations I could use are listed below.
It is my choice as to how strong I am. I am the creator of my health.
Exercise is a big component of health. I chose to be healthy.
Some of the suggestions from the lesson were:
Frustration: Even though I dislike frustration, I can handle it.
To get pleasant results, I often have to do unpleasant things.
Achievement: What I become is my choice, for only I am the creator of my destiny.
I’m no longer afraid to use the power within me to achieve my goals.
Love: I draw love and romance into my life and I accept it now.
Love is all around me. I feel everywhere. Joy fills my entire world.
I’m committing to trying affirmations for the next month and see if I find it changes my perception. It seems like it’s similar to the cognitive based therapy process of re-framing your thoughts.
Does anyone currently utilize affirmations? Do they help?
Every time I take any kind of personality assessment, I always get told I’m a people pleaser. The type that puts everyone else first. The girl at a party that spends the whole time making sure everyone else has fun, even if she’s not the host. The person who says yes to last-minute changes/requests, even when it impacts her plans.
That’s the same type girl who resents feeling used. Taken advantages of. Taken for granted.
That’s the same person that doesn’t ever seem to hear “Thank you” or “I’m sorry for yelling at you when I was stressed out at everyone else” or “I really appreciate you”.
I really really am awful with personal boundaries, both creating and enforcing them.
When asked a question, or to do something for someone else if it’s going to make me feel bad that I said yes, I’m trying to say no.
Often I say yes to accommodating others, instantly. Instead , I’m making myself think about it and really reflect upon if I want to… or if I just want to say yes to make someone else happy.
The reason this is such a problem for me is that I take it personally that people abuse me in this way… EVEN THOUGH I AM THE ONE LETTING IT CONTINUE.
My feelings are hurt when a neighbor asks me to help out and they know I have guests coming. I say well I have guests coming… And I get the response “I only need this and this and that”… I end up saying yes, but I’m so angry at them for thinking it’s okay to add to a plate that is already filled.
My feelings are hurt when I am going out of my way to be extra helpful at an event, and when the host cracks under the pressure and I’m there, being Helpful Hannah, I get yelled at… I just want to scream “I didn’t have to help you, I didn’t have to make this day extra special, no one else is doing this for you!!”.
I’m practicing the process of thinking about each action I do for everyone else and thinking about what my real motives are and how I will feel if they are not appreciated.
I’m practicing thinking if saying yes will overwhelm me, and what the downside of saying no could be.
I tend to be an extremist…
If I don’t go the extra mile no one will like me. If I don’t always say yes, they will say no when I really need their help.
If someone doesn’t like me for not going the extra mile every.single.time, do I really want/need them in my life? NO.
If they aren’t willing to help because I had to honor my own needs once or twice, am I really at a loss if they don’t help me anymore? NO.
I’m embracing the joy of saying no. Of owning my time, my space and my life. One simple No at a time.